Are you ready to spice things up in the bedroom? In this article, you will find valuable tips that will help you explore your kinky side and take your relationship with your partner to the next level.
General Guidelines On How to Get Kinky
Before we start discussing unordinary sex ideas, we want to pay you attention to some key points of getting kinky:
Don't set too high expectations. When you get into the kink for the first time, you may or may not get the pleasure you expect. Freaky sex doesn't always feel as good as it is shown in erotic movies.
Make sure that your partner doesn't mind taking part in your freak sex play. Are you interested in BDSM sex, but your partner is not? You can't force your lover to try out this experience. Remember that you should get sexual consent before trying out any freaky things.
Start small. Reveal your freaky side step by step. Try some simple ideas first, and then move to extraordinary ones.
Use a "safeword". You or your partner may get overly excited about rough sex, and, as a result, your game may go all wrong. Come up with a "safeword" to prevent any negative experience.
Don't ignore safety rules. Some freaky sex games are associated with high health risks. Be careful when trying new sex experiences for the first time. For instance, if you want to use erotic asphyxiation, make sure you have a good understanding of how to use it in a safe way.
Sweet Up Your Game
If you want to have great sex, you should engage all your senses, including your taste. You can use whipped cream, chocolate sauce, or any other delicious food of your choice.
Put some sweet sauce on your lips, breast, tummy, and ask your lover to lick it off. Lead your partner from one of your erogenous zones to another, maximizing your sexual excitement.
Offer to Watch an Erotic Movie
The fun fact about porn is that almost everyone watches it, but only some people talk about it openly. Yep, there is still a stigma around watching erotic movies. The chances are both you and your partner watch porn but never discuss it.
Interesting fact: The results of a recent statistical study reveal that the world’s top 100 adult movie sites got 3.3 billion unique visits and 14.5 billion views in 2020. According to this study, an average user spends around six minutes watching sex-related videos per session.
Have you ever watched such kinds of videos together? You shouldn't feel ashamed about sharing your sex preferences with your partner. There is nothing wrong with it.
Invite your partner to your bedroom and offer to watch your favorite erotic scenes. It will add intimacy to your relationships and inspire you to try things you have never dared to talk about.
Tip: Offer your partner to copy the actions of pornstars. Try to move your body in the same way the actors do it, and you will have amazing sexual intercourse.
Talk Dirty
When we make love, we concentrate our attention not only on movements and sensory feelings but also on sounds. And in some cases, audio stimulation plays an even more important role than visual stimulation.
When you groan and scream with pleasure, you help your partner understand that he is moving in the right direction. And when you tell some dirty things, you excite him even more. Don't be afraid to be a naughty girl in the bed. Your sex partners will love it.
Many men and women find whispering dirty things during lovemaking sexy and excitatory. Here is a tweet by Gage that proves this statement.
Have Phone Sex
As we have already mentioned, you can use the sound of your voice and dirty words to turn your lover on. Basically, you don't even need to be in one room to feel the desire and arousal. You can call your lover over the phone and offer him to listen to a sex story - a fantasy you have created for him.
Want to have mind-blowing phones sex? Try to provide your lover with as many details as possible. Tell him what you are wearing, and describe where and how you are touching yourself and where you want to kiss him. Focus on the words that define your physical sensation as well as your feelings.
Susan Block, Ph.D., and sex therapist, emphasizes the importance of using a sexy tone of voice and using the right technique of breathing:
"Get into that slower, softer way of talking. Try to concentrate all of your sexiness into your voice."
Tip: Make sure to choose the right moment to make a call to your lover. If he is busy at work or in a crowded place, he won't want to have a hot conversation.