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Let’s start off with the fact that all relationships go through positive and negative phases with extreme emotions. Married couples may eventually experience ups and downs. That said, if your relationship has way too many of them to tolerate, you and your lover go from loving to hating each other, you experience strong feelings that lead to negative emotions then you may be in a love-hate relationship.
In this article, we’ll examine what these relationships are, some of the signs of emotional rollercoasters, and ways to navigate romantic love that offers just as much thrill as it does exhaustion.
Arguing and even fighting is normal at some point among married couples. Studies suggest that people whose marriage is based on friendship and sharing the truth are much happier. But when jealousy, resentment, and conflict overpower the marriage, that’s when it is time to take a step back and evaluate whether you are in a love-hate relationship.
A typical love-hate situation can be classified as full of intense emotions ranging from love to hatred. It may sound over the top, but not just your but other couples may be in relationships that go from extreme passion to aggression in no time. These can lead to strong words and, ultimately, fights that can be tremendously emotionally exhausting for both partners.
People find themselves in all types of relationships. Love and hate ones are no exception. Sometimes, a person who ends up on these emotional rides feels vulnerable and unworthy of love. Some people almost accept that they only deserve to be in an emotionally difficult relationship. These chaotic aspects can truly impact someone’s already low self-esteem.
Those who have previously had critical thoughts of themselves may feel a false sense of being loved despite the issues in the family. Some folks who have only experienced similar aspects of relationships in their families or early on in life may not know a different feeling. So, it is important to recognize the signs of a love-hate relationship and address the issue right away.
There is a wide misconception when it comes to love-hate relationships. Some individuals adore the feeling of tension and believe it may lead to closer relationships in the future. Many people imagine a tumultuous relationship as sexy. So, sometimes partners provoke frustration and anger to intensify the affection.
However, that is not necessarily the case for all relationships. As we’ve mentioned in this article already, unfortunately, some individuals just do not have positive experiences regarding marriage and love. They do not know any better, for the lack of a better word. They need their partner to take the lead and consider their upbringing and family. Show a sign of compassion and understanding instead of anger and aggression. Communication is always the key to being on the same page in a loving relationship and building a future together.
Recognizing the toxic cycle of your love-hate relationship and hopefully finding a way to begin to break it is going to help you navigate a chaotic marriage. Perhaps refusing to accept that it is a part of nature and seeing the warning signs can help you figure out the ways to prevent love-hate relationships:
Being aware of your emotions: showing vulnerability and opening up your feelings without excessive anger will help you get a new perspective on problems and issues with your partner.
Being able to set boundaries: working on what makes you tick and how to address it without a screaming match may help get off an emotional rollercoaster ride.
Asking for help: seeking counseling and therapy. If that is unavailable, reaching out to family and friends who can offer support and advice can help manage the issues with your partner.
Standing up for yourself: ultimately, it is up to you to decide whether to continue on this ride or break up with the person. If the relationship negatively affects your quality of life, perhaps it is time to let go and move on, regardless of how difficult it may seem.
There are many reasons why people end up in love-hate relationships. Some of them may be quite obvious, while others not so much. Among the many reasons are:
Compatibility issues: yes, sometimes people are just incompatible and wrong for each other. They do not see eye-to-eye and have different goals in life, yet are extremely attracted to one another sexually or romantically.
Egos: people have egos, and some of us have larger egos than others that overshadow love for someone else. This can make a negative impact with respect to a relationship with another human being.
Control issues: some folks tend to be extremely controlling and do not allow their partner to take the lead.
Insecurity: some people have low self-esteem and let others push them around and overpower them in a relationship which may lead to problems in the long run
It is important to note that sometimes people end up in a love-hate relationship that developed over time. These issues may have taken years to build up and show up. So, focusing on how a relationship impacts your quality of life, what you can do to fix it, and whether it is worth working on is crucial to moving forward.
If a love-hate relationship is toxic and abusive, there is no point in saving it. Suppose your partner is taking advantage of you. In that case, you probably need to get out of the relationship and completely break the cycle.
If you feel that you can stop the ups and downs, here are some of the ways to help you navigate your love-hate relationship without jeopardizing your family.
So, how to deal with a conflict that can create a rift between loved ones and lead to a sudden and extreme shift in emotions? There are several ways to begin addressing the idea of a love and hate marriage.
Look within yourself: Try to see whether your thoughts and actions tend to lead to a frustrating phase in your relationship. Writing it down and talking it over with your partner may help save your family. Suggest that your partner does the same for you to clear everything off your mind that may negatively impact your relationship.
Identify your feelings; Do not be afraid to discuss all the negative feelings associated with your relationship. Being able to talk about the emotions that cause problems and friction between you is crucial to helping you get rid of them. Writing a letter to your partner may also help you get the emotions out,
Find ways to spend time together positively: finding a new activity you can do together can benefit you. Explore some ways to help your mind and body, perhaps a yoga and meditation class or a ski trip together.
Trust each other and let go when necessary: we all have ups and downs. People go through difficult times, and on occasion, they do not make it through the storm together. Sometimes your loved one is better off as a friend. Trusting your partner and knowing when to let go of them can help you end the love-hate relationship.
So, if your relationship has run its course and you are no longer happy - let go of each other, be grown-ups, and part ways with one another.
A love-hate relationship can be emotionally frustrating and draining. These relationships can also give people exciting and incredible extremes. These can be truly passionate love affairs that take a huge toll on both partners’ physical and mental health.
The key to navigating love-hate relationships is breaking the cycle and learning more about each other, listening to your partner, and setting boundaries. Perhaps the most important thing to remember regarding love-hate relationships is being able to let your partner go and move forward.
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