You may feel tempted to react with dread, as there are many misconceptions about bisexual people. However, this is not the tragedy that you may feel inclined to believe that it is.
What you want to do now is move forward in a way that is loving and affirmative toward your partner. You’ll also want to learn more about what this means for your relationship. It’s okay if you have questions and uncertainties.
Remember that your partner feels safe and comfortable enough to reveal this fact about them to you. This shows exactly how much they love and trust you. Now it’s up to you to properly handle this revelation. Here are some tips on what you should do.
Remember That Them Coming Out Doesn’t Mean That They Love You Any Less
This is the most important thing to be understood about the situation. In fact, by having them come out to you and reveal this information about them to you it shows that they love you very much. There are several online groups for bisexual people as well as their partners, it may be worthwhile to join one and ask members for advice on how to properly support your partner.
Remember This Revelation in Their Identity Won’t Change Who They Are
Because of many misconceptions surrounding bisexual people, you may start to think that your partner is no longer attracted to you, or that they will start to act differently. But that is seldom the case.
In today’s age of sexual fluidity shifting through sexualities is a common theme. Not because you are able to choose your sexuality or how you identify. But as you grow and learn about yourself throughout the years your identity may shift to better match with that growth.
It’s a good thing that your partner has connected with their bisexuality. It shows they have good self-insight.
Dump the Myths
Being a member of the LGBTQ+ community yourself, you have heard the myths about bisexuals – they are promiscuous; they are only experimenting; it’s just a phase, etc. Even if you understand these things to be untrue, negative socialization can subtly impact your attitudes and perceptions. Be aware of this. Work to unlearn things that may stop you from being a good partner.
Your partner still loves you, and they aren’t going to change as a person. However, this is still a big revelation and you, as most people might, have some questions for them. This is understandable, and your partner may be prepared for these questions. However, this doesn’t mean that every question you may have will be appropriate. Choose what you want to ask of them carefully, and don’t let the myths and misconceptions skew your questions or their answers.
- “How long have you felt this way?”
- “What can I do to support you?”
- “Do you want to explore this new identity/ How do you want to explore this new identity?”
Bisexuality is Compatible With a Happy Relationship
There’s no reason to assume anything negative will come from this revelation. A person you love has simply felt safe enough with you to talk about something important to them. If you feel anxious about this, remember that there are scores of bisexual couples who enjoy dedicated, long-term relationships.
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