Sex toys are something – straight, gay, lesbian, bi, and trans folks, yes, trans individuals all have in common and can be used for a variety of purposes – for self-play or with partners. Trans folks are no different from anyone else. And here’s a news flash. Many of the same toys are used by all adults, cis or trans folks.
For example, you are a trans woman who has officially had her bottom surgery. You are ready for some serious penetrative vaginal sex and other toy play. But you don’t have a cohort with a penis right now. And so, you go shopping for some great dildos, strap-ons, maybe some clit playthings, and some fun nipple suckers. Add some great lube, and you’re all set.
So, let’s explore the world of sex toys, all the varieties out there what they do, and where you can find them.
What Are Trans Pleasure Toys
Any sex toy used by someone who is trans is a transgender sex toy. If it works for your body and satisfies you it counts. That said some toys are designed specifically for trans women and men. This includes any sex toy that is:
- Designed with gender dysphoria in mind
- Helpful to people who have had bottom surgery
- Helpful to people who have not had bottom surgery
At first, the last two points may seem to contradict one another. But, the philosophy is the same. Trans people should be able to enjoy sex in the bodies they have right now. For example, many trans men who have not had bottom surgery feel affirmed in their masculinity if they can have penetrative sex thanks to a strap-on and harness.
Conversely, many trans women who haven’t undergone surgery may feel uncomfortable masturbating using the traditional “stroking” method. There are softer, flexible toys that they can bend or twist into shapes that work for them. These are often marketed as enby or nonbinary toys because they are designed to work with the genitals you have, but allow you to adjust the way you use them to meet your needs. Some popular versions resemble starfish or even bicycle seats.
Quality is Key
It is important always to consider the quality of the toy that you are looking at. Of course, there are tons of websites with cheap products available for use, however in the best-case scenario a cheap toy doesn’t last very long, or it ends up not doing what you need it to do.
For example, you may go onto one of these inexpensive sex toy websites and find a decent-looking vibrator to play with. You place the order and expecting a thrillful ride you may find that you would get a more pleasurable sensation from a toy that came from a box of cereal than you would from the toy you received.
Of course, disappointment is the least of your worries. Toys that are low in quality often break easily, and when that happens it raises the potential risk for a trip to the hospital. Not only will this waste your money and your time, but you may have to visit the hospital for an embarrassing reason such as a toy becoming stuck inside of you. Good toys are a great investment to be made and need to be considered carefully as good pulseplate technology isn’t cheap.
When it comes to good quality sex toys you have two options to consider. The first option is to find and visit a reputable sex toy store within your area. By visiting a shop in person you get to see the quality of the toy in person. You can even feel the merchandise and if you’re buying a vibrating toy you can turn it on and test out the vibrations in your hand to see how it feels. Your second option is to find a reputable website. While you cannot see the toys in person on a website you can take a look at the multiple reviews that others leave which can give you a good idea of the quality of the toy. Just be careful of the reviews that are directly left on the website as many companies offer incentives for people to leave favorable reviews even if the product doesn’t deserve said reviews.
Of course, quality is an aspect that should be considered for more than just toys, but we’ll talk more about quality later.
Categories of Toys to Please You
The process of transitioning is something that many members of the trans community are at different stages. Wherever you may be in your transition process, if you plan to transition at all, you can read through the following categories to make the best purchase decision for yourself.
What you choose may be strongly influenced by your point of transition, if you plan to partake in solo or couple play, how intense you wish for the play to be, whether you wish to use a toy for beginners or something more advanced, or if there is a specific kink you wish to partake in. These are just a few of the many factors you will want to consider when choosing a toy.
A few more aspects you may want to consider is the type of stimulation you may want. Are you someone who prefers the G-spot, the P-spot, or the A-spot when it comes to stimulating yourself? Are you wanting to see how anal play might feel? This type of sex or play can feel amazing no matter what your gender is.
You may only want internal stimulation, such as toys that are made to imitate the feeling of penetration. Or you may want to focus on certain pleasure centers such as the chest, or neck when it comes to the act of self-service. Whatever you may want, no matter what your gender, and no matter what your body is like there is always at least one toy that is perfect for you.
Oh, and don’t worry, no matter what you or your lover may vibe with sex toys are always non-binary. Now let’s look at the different types of non-binary, toys.
Clitoral Vibrators
Although the name of this toy is fairly self-explanatory, it should be stated that these toys are made to stimulate the clitoris, which is a piece of spongey tissue located above the vaginal opening that becomes swollen when someone is aroused.
These toys are not made for penetration, however, this does not mean that clitoral vibes are only meant for the clit. There are a multitude of erogenous zones on the body that these toys are perfect for. Such as the nipples, ears, neck, labia, testicles, and so many more great places that can be stimulated with this kind of vibe.
According to Dr. Carol Queen, a sexologist at Good Vibrations, “Terrible sex ed and confusing pop culture references make it seem like vaginal insertion is the primary way to stimulate people with vaginas, but most orgasms for them are clitoral…so exploring clitoral stimulation can be a revelation…”
The most popular design is a bullet, but newer ones include more than just vibration, including suction and even “tongues.”
The Wand Vibrator
The magic wand vibrator is a toy that has become increasingly popular throughout the years. They are often recognized as toy with long handle with a large head. They are sometimes even confused for electronic massagers as they have similar designs.
Not only is the wand vibrator a great tool to stimulate the clitoris, but if you get a magic wand with interchangeable heads you can use it to satisfy a multitude of erotic desires you may have. Such as anal play or penetrative play. These toys are so versatile that when you get one it can feel like you have 5 toys instead.
Clit Suction Devices
Clit suction tools are a relatively new type of sex toy, and they can be quite amazing. What happens when you use these toys is the toy will simultaneously suck on the clit while vibrating to give you some amazing stimulation and orgasms. These clit suction toys aren’t just for the clitoris either, it can also be used on your nipples for a different kind of sexual stimulus. Be aware that some of these have more power than others!
Dildos and Harnesses
This toy is one that we find that a lot of trans folks really like, no matter what their gender identity is or where they are in terms of their transition. Those with vaginas have two holes that can be used for insertion. While Those who have a penis only have one hole for receiving. But there’s no need for genital dysphoria for these toys.
You have likely heard of a dildo, but you may not have heard of how the dildo has evolved. Shapes, double-ended toys for penetration of more than one of you, or more than one hole. Sizes that are made, vibrating functions, expandable toys, and even toys that are heated or have automatic thrusters to help mimic the feel of penetrative sex.
In addition to the evolution of the dildo, there have also been several dildo specific products that have been made. For example, you can attach the dildo to a strap or harness for penetration with your lover. Or if you want to have a little more fun it can be worn as an accessory at a spicy queer Pride event.
Dildos have some other neat features such as suction cups on the end if you would like to enjoy some fun in the shower. Or those that come with motors that stimulate the feeling of sex that involves insertion.
Now let’s talk about a couple of these features. For example, if you get an expandable dildo it is important to make sure you get a size that you can handle. If you are a beginner don’t be afraid to get one that is in the smaller size. You can always get a bigger one later, and risking injury is not worth it.
Material is something else to consider. There are many different types of materials that a dildo can be made out of such as glass, hard or soft silicone, and rubber, and there are even toys that are made out of stainless steel. Remember to choose what feels good as well as what is easy to clean.
If you plan to use a dildo for anal enjoyment there are some things you need to consider when choosing one. First is the size, although there are some that can reach up to 15 inches in length something at that size isn’t exactly practical and can cause internal injuries. An anal toy should also have a flared base to prevent the mishap of it becoming stuck inside. After all, nothing says a dead bedroom like a trip to the hospital to remove that sort of thing.
With all of this variety and ways to use when it comes to these items, there is one for almost every trans person. Whether they have a penis or not, or are a pre-op trans woman, man, or somebody who is non-binary. There are even hollow strap-on dildos that can be used and seem to have a much lower risk of dysphoria.
Fun Fact: Some trans women or femme gender non-binary trans folks refer to their genitals as a strap
Devices for the G, A, and P-Spots
When it comes to the types of toys that hit any of these sensitive areas, trans women have an advantage, especially if they have vaginas. Of course, trans guys who have not undergone bottom surgery yet have the advantage of G and A-spot toys as well as non binary folks who have a vagina. This is because of both the g and the spots located inside of the vagina. The G-spot is located on the upper wall of the vagina and is seen as one of the most sensitive erotic points of the body. While the A-spot is further inside and can only be reached by a toy that is at least five inches long.
For those with penile anatomy the P-spot, or the prostate, is what you may want to focus on. The prostate is a gland in the rectum that expands during sex and applying pressure to it can cause somebody to become even more aroused. If you have trouble finding that spot it can be found internally in the area between the balls and the anus, and you can tell you found it by the way it is slightly indented.
When choosing a toy to stimulate these areas you will notice that the toy will be curved. This is because these spots are located on the wall facing towards the stomach.
Combo Vibrators (AKA Rabbit Vibrators)
These cute little fuckers have quite an interesting history. At one point they were made in bright colors with little vibrating animals as a way to get around the strict obscenity laws that many toy manufacturers had to deal with. Although the animals that once accompanied these toys are gone, their namesake still pays homage to that factor.
These toys are a dream for any transgender woman who has undergone the procedure for bottom surgery. This combo vibrator is not only great for insertion, but it also stimulates the clitoris at the same time. Have you ever tried to go solo with one hand holding the vibrator inside of the vagina while the other hand is trying to work the clit? It gets messy and leaves other sensitive bits untouched which can make the sex kind of boring
But with a toy like this, you can have a free hand to use for wiping the sweat from your brow, as well as experiment with those other erotic zones. What an amazing tool for some amazing masturbation! Try one with dual motors to experience some truly wild sensations.
Of course, this combo isn’t limited to just trans women, as we said earlier all of these tools are nonbinary, and can also be used to stimulate the P-spot and testicles as well. All with an amazing set of vibrations and different modes can help to achieve a wide range of sensations throughout the body.
Cock Rings
Ok trans guys, if you have had your bottom procedure done, or if you are someone who has a penis, this one is for you. Cock rings are a special type of toy that gets placed at the base of the penis. When you get an erection, it’s caused by an increase in bloodflow into the dick when you become aroused. When that cock ring is placed on the base, it keeps that blood in and makes that erection last even longer. This can be great if you have a lover who needs a little bit more time to reach climax.
In addition to its more practical uses, it has some more fun uses as well. Most cock rings also have a vibration function for your penis. This means you can enjoy some solo sessions as well as some nice intimacy with your lover.
Butt Plugs
People enjoy anal sex because the anus and rectum have an abundance of nerve endings. Additionally, this is the ideal sexual activity for people who are into prostate stimulation. Anal stimulation is also open to any and everybody who has a butthole. For folks who enjoy this, the butt plug is a must-have item.
Another benefit of this handy toy is its versatility. People can choose one that’s the perfect size for them to achieve the intensity they want. Be sure to choose a water based lubricant for this kind of activity.
Anal Beads
Anal beads are a string of connected beads that are slowly inserted into the rectum and pulled out. The friction from this motion causes the beads to rub against the nerve endings. The result? pure ecstacy for folks who enjoy that sort of thing. So much so that some people can achieve orgasm from this.
These are also a beginner-friendly item for people who are new to anal exploration. The beads can be purchased rather small, and you or your partner can go slowly until your body gets used to the sensation.
Cock Sleeves
A cock sleeve is both a tool for pleasure as well as an important item for men who are trans to have. Let’s talk about pleasure first. A cock sleeve or penis sleeve provides a snug fit which can enhance pleasure for the person wearing it. If it comes with a vibe installed, those vibrations can feel amazing!
What about the “receiver”? They get amazing benefits too! A cock sleeve can help a trans man maintain an erection and penetrate their partner more deeply. It also helps prevent premature ejaculation.
Individuals who struggle to maintain an erection may find that they are able to stay hard longer. Also, if you struggle with genital dysphoria this may help you feel more confident and masculine during sex.
Enby Toys
These are toys specifically made and marketed to trans women, men, and gender non-conforming people. They provide these folks with a way to enjoy sex with another individual or themselves without some of the limitations and issues that come with a traditional sex toy. Instead, an enby toy works with the bodies of trans individuals and gives them the flexibility to enjoy the precise stimulation they need to feel satisfied and affirmed.
Even better, many of these toys are beginner-friendly, and some in different shapes and sizes. Folks can choose from:
- Hump and grind – For folks who may not derive enjoyment from stroking or insertion
- Dilators – To help trans women who have had bottom surgery
- Suction vibes – May work better for dysphoria and on the anatomy of some trans folx
- Pleasure sleeves – for trans dudes who have had bottom growth or have had bottom surgery
- Strokers – Used by trans men with bottom growth or who have had bottom surgery
- Packers – Some packers may be used for penetrative sex
Non-binary or trans sex toys can also be the traditional toys listed earlier. The difference is that the versions trans women and men use are adjusted to the needs of this part of the queer community. For example, a toy used for insertion doesn’t have to look or be shaped like a penis. A trans woman who hasn’t had bottom surgery yet may not want to masturbate with a toy that has the word vagina in its name. Fortunately, trans women, guys, and nonbinary folx have their choice in items that work for them.
Lubes
No matter which sex toys you use, chances are you need a great lube to make them work better for your body. While lube is made for everybody, folks who are transgender need to pay particularly close attention to the lube they use and how much.
For one thing, hormone treatments can impact your body and any natural lubrication it produces. Of course, trans women’s bodies simply don’t have that function. So lube is an absolute necessity.
What’s the best lube for a transgender person? Folks should experiment to see what works best for them and their bodies. However, a good lube is body-safe, water or silicone-based, and long-lasting. For any sort of anal action, avoid a lube that is numbing. It may seem to make the process easier, but the individual bottoming may not be able to tell if any damage is being done. Remember that pain is an important measure of safety.
Have a Great Time And Enjoy Your Body!
Head to the sex shop or your favorite kinky website. Choose some toys for some solo sessions or fun with the one you love. Don’t forget the lube! Trans and nonbinary folks deserve to have enjoyable toys that work for them. Hopefully, this list helps you find what you’re looking for.
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