Usually, in the first few months of every relationship, people show their best selves but after some time, you might notice a huge turn in their emotions and actions. So, whether you are going on a first date or have been seeing them for a while, here are some turn-offs to look out for.
They Talk Too Much About Their Ex
Have you ever gone on a first date with someone and you realize they recently got out of a past relationship? If they keep talking about things their ex did or proceed to explain why they broke up, this is certainly a big turn-off.
You want to get to know them first but instead, they focus on talking about other men. While it is hard to overcome feelings for someone you were dating, talking about them to a potential partner is definitely a no-go and a sign you are not over them.
They Talk in a Very Bad Way About Their Exes
Along with the previous point, when you hear someone talk very badly about their exes, that is a big red flag, especially if they mention more than one person. It truly makes you wonder if they just had bad luck in relationships or if they tend to talk about anyone they were dating.
Either way, this is another turn-off that can show you a lot about someone's personality and the respect they show towards the partners they are dating.
They are Rude to Service Staff
Something many people dislike when it comes to getting to know someone is finding out they are rude to service staff when they are out on a first date. The world doesn't revolve around them and there is no reason to be impolite to someone doing their job and trying to service you.
This disrespect could show you a glimpse of how they will react towards other people in different situations. It shows entitlement and it surely isn't attractive when rudeness is the only thing that comes out of someone's mouth.
They Don't Have a Job or Ambitions for the Future
While having a job isn't the most important thing, trying to find a job or having ambitions for the future is important. It is such a turn-off when the person you are trying to date or become friends with doesn't have dreams or ambitions for the future.
Here it is important to note that certain people might be struggling with depression and this can impact them to feel or act this way. It is up to you to figure out whether it is personal problems or genuine laziness that is making them not work on their personal plans and future.
They Never Want to do Anything Fun
Even introverted people will want to go out on diners and spend time with you whenever they can. If someone gets too comfortable in a relationship, they can start not wanting to dress up or go on dates. If this is something you need from your partner, don't settle for less.
It is alright to have dates at home and can help create a bond between partners. At the same time, this should not be the only option, especially if you keep asking them to do more. Going out for food or fun dates can especially do a lot for couples that have been together a while.
