Sex Life A Bit Boring? Try A Sexual Surprise

Last Updated 13.05.2022
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Who doesn't like a surprise (a good one, that is)? You win a jackpot at the casino; someone throws you a surprise party; your boss buys lunch for the whole office; an old friend you haven't seen for a long time suddenly shows up. Each one of these things is a pleasant surprise and certainly unexpected. They bring a level of excitement and happiness into your life.

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Is the same thing happening in your bedroom? Do you give or get surprises that will bring a level of excitement and happiness there too? Maybe you have never even thought about a sex surprise. But one or two may just be the thing that will take your between-the-sheets relationship to new heights. Plus, it's just fun to be either the giver or the receiver of a sexy surprise.

Need an Idea for Fun Surprise Sex?

The question now is: What would a good sexy surprise be? If you are lost for great ideas, check some of these out. Be mindful that not all of these will work for you and your partner. You know each other well, and you should know what could bring more energy and excitement for both short- and long-term intimacy.

Each relationship is unique, as are the needs and desires in the bedroom. Still, something completely different and off the wall can bring a whole new dimension to a relationship. As you look at this list, think about what type of surprise sex might just work.

Get Some Sex Card Decks

There is a whole host of decks of cards that couples can use to spice things up in the bedroom. Research some of them and choose one or two that you think will work. One popular deck contains cards that each of you will randomly select. Each card contains something that one partner will do to the other. The partner who wants to initiate the surprise sex game will choose a card in advance and make any preparations to carry out the instructions. This will be the activity for the first night. Once that is complete, the couple will decide when they will play this game again, and it is the other partner's turn to choose a card and to prep according to the instructions. Partners should not reveal sexy activity is in store for their mate. That's the whole point of surprise sex.

Get a Great Sex Toy and Add Some Lube

If you have never used sex toys before, then this will certainly be something new. But if you have used them before, shop for one that is more unique and surprise you with it once you get into the act.

Adding lube may be nothing new either. But how about some with an amazing taste or fragrance?

Place your purchases in a sexy position on the bed and let your partner think about what kind of sex act and pleasure will be following. Sex toys can certainly add surprising new heights to what happens in bed.

Reserve a Getaway at a Resort/Spa

This can be an amazing surprise, as long as you have made the right preparations. You must be certain that your mate will be free to go on this little adventure - no plans or commitments that cannot be re-arranged. Getting away to a new environment can add much more intimacy and even spontaneous sex, moving from the food and drink to the massage table, to the hot tub, to your private room with that glow of anticipation.

Leave a Sexy Message on the Bedroom Mirror

Sexual surprises don't have to come with a price tag. Using lipstick or a washable marker, write a steamy message on your mirror. This might be what sex moves you intend to make as soon as you get your mate into bed. If you aren't used to talking dirty, you can find example messages on several websites - find those that fit your partnership and make note of a bunch of them. You might want to do this every once in a while, but randomly, so the element of surprise stays intact. Here are a few examples:

  • What are you doing later? Mind if I blow you?

  • Tonight, I plan to drain you of cum

  • I'm going to start licking your neck - how far down should I go?

  • Here's a new position we're going to try (draw a diagram, even if it's rough)

  • Don't plan on walking once I finish with you

  • Get a quick shower, my (dick or vajayjay) will see you in bed

  • Did I buy handcuffs and a blindfold today for you, for me, or for both of us?

  • My mouth is ready - You're about to have surprises at a whole new level, and it's not just blowing in your ear.

Serve Up a Special Dessert

Chocolate, whipped cream, and cherry make a perfect combination, especially when it's on your body, or you put it on your partner's body. It's meant only to lick off of course. And here's the thing: you can put this dessert in several different places - stomach, butt, directly between the legs, on a dick, or in an all-around that vajayjay. And don't forget to have some kind of a pad underneath to catch the drippings - just sayin'.

Do Naughty Things in the Wrong Places

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This is especially fun. Suppose you and your partner are having dinner in a nice restaurant or at one of the other's parents' homes. Start massaging their "private parts" under the table. If you are guests in someone else's place, quickly flash them. Flashing is also great in the grocery store when others are not looking. How about having sex in the hotel pool or a public bathroom? People have had sex in some crazy places, and just the risk of it all can make it much more amazing. Romantic relationships and the sex that goes along with them don't have to be confined to the bed or the couch. Your sex life should be more exciting.

Satisfy Your Partner's Fantasies

Ask your partner to write down their favorite sexual fantasy and you write yours down too. This can be just like a "homework assignment." Trade what each of you has written down. When your mate is least suspecting it, have all of the preparations made for their fantasy and let them live it out for real. These kinds of surprises can have your sex mate ready to reveal even more of what goes on in their brain. Then, you can keep the surprise sex coming over a longer period of time.

Bring Nudity into the Picture

Invite your love over for dinner. When they arrive, answer the door in the nude. Tell them you are going to cook together, but totally nude, eat, clear the table, and then have sex on that table for dessert. You can always throw a comforter on the table for a softer act.

Plan a Sex Day

Tell a white lie. Tell your partner to clear their entire day because you have planned a day trip. When they arrive to go on that trip, explain that the entire trip will be between the sheets. Have everything prepared in advance - their favorite movies, their favorite music, food, and drink. And don't forget the sex toys and lubes, and anything else that might apply. The goal is not to have to get up except for the occasional need to relieve yourselves. This is also a great way to have spontaneous sex whenever the mood and the horniness happen to hit. To top off the day, have a bubble bath or shower together - you never know what surprising event might just pop into your heads

Role Play a Classroom

When your partner arrives home from work or to spend an evening with you, here is a great surprise. Dress like a teacher, and your partner must be the student. As a teacher, you are in charge of the classroom, and the student must do whatever you say. Start by having your student undress slowly, one clothing item at a time. Once they are nude, they must fondle themselves, get into sexy positions or use toys that you have added as additional surprises.

And of course, make them use their brain too. There will be homework assignments. They must write a short essay on all the things they would like you to do to them or what they would like to do to you.

This is a type of domination game that can really take your sex life into a new dimension. As the staff of Master Class writes, "Role-playing scenarios can jumpstart the action of a D/s scenario because they offer easy roles for each person to slip into and help you distance yourself from the situation if you're feeling a little stage fright...role-play situations that already have a built-in power dynamic with both a dominant and submissive role..."

You can then turn the tables and have your partner be dominant in a new scenario - boss/employee or doctor/patient, for example. Both of you may be surprised at how your sex life can become much more fun (and a bit kinky). Roleplay does require some brain activity, in order to come up with the scenarios you want, in order to keep your partner engaged and surprised. And of course, you will want to dress the part - oh the possibilities for such sex surprises.

Sexy Surprises Can Bring a World of Fun and Pleasure

Any man or woman can come up with a sex surprise to delight a mate. If you are not as creative with sex as you'd like to be, here you have an article with 10 possibilities. But you don't have to stop here - you can find another article or two on the web with even more sex surprise ideas. Without a surprise or two, sex life for men and women can become monotonous and dull. You don't want that, do you?


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